Confidence Building

Confidence isn't about feeling invincible or never having doubts - it's about feeling grounded in who you are and trusting your ability to handle whatever comes your way. It's that quiet inner knowing that says "I've got this," even when you're not entirely sure how things will turn out. And if there are setbacks to handle, you know you will figure out how to handle them.

I'm here to help you spot the confidence zappers/gaps and support you while you fill them. Together, we'll explore what's been holding you back, challenge limiting beliefs, and create new empowering beliefs that you can draw upon when needed. We'll focus on shifting those internal narratives from things like "I can't" to "I'm learning," and "I'm not ready" to "I'm willing to try" or whatever resonates with you and fits your needs.

Here's something important to remember: you're not starting from scratch. Just like there are different kinds of smarts — street smart, book smart, people smart... — confidence shows up in different forms and at different times. You already have confidence somewhere in your life, even if it doesn't feel like it right now. Maybe you're confident in your friendships, your problem-solving abilities, or how you handle certain situations.

It's about creating a track record of evidence that you can trust yourself. Each attempt — regardless of outcome — builds the "confidence muscle" through experience rather than theory. And if an attempt "fails," it's not evidence that you're not good enough, it's feedback that helps you course-correct. We'll reframe those "mistakes" as data points, building evidence that you can trust yourself to figure things out, adapt, and keep going even when things don't go according to plan.

We won't wait until you feel fearless to take action, though; we'll focus on taking small, brave steps that gradually expand your comfort zone and build genuine self-belief. You will learn how to do it scared, because as cliché as it sounds, courage isn't the absence of fear, it's feeling the fear and showing up anyway. The trick is that we'll focus on the confidence areas or scenarios you want to and feel ready to work on, honoring your pace and your instincts about what feels manageable right now. If and when you feel ready, we can gradually expand into other areas—there's no rush and no pressure to tackle everything at once.

Step by step, you will start taking up space in your own life — expressing preferences, speaking up in meetings, setting boundaries (...). Making choices based on what you actually want, not what you think you should want, owning up to your decisions, and trusting your own judgment. You could even be excited to try new things or simply pursue goals that matter to you, even if they seem scary or ambitious, with conviction.